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Baby showers: an outdated idea?

When a happy couple can declare that a new baby is on the way, it’s usually not just the parents who are getting excited. The future grandparents, aunts, uncles friends and any other loved ones will be looking forward to welcoming the newest member of the family. This baby shower is one of the most traditional ways for friends, family and loved ones to come together to celebrate the pregnancy. It’s a time for people to gather and ‘shower’ the happy couple with presents, love and good wishes before the birth of the baby.

However, in recent years this tradition seems to have died off a little bit. A combination of changes in social and cultural etiquette surrounding the birth of a new baby seems to have drawn people away from the idea of hosting these events.

In this guide, we are going to be discussing how baby showers have come about, and whether or not they are a truly ‘outdated’ idea.


What exactly is a baby shower?

A baby shower is essentially, like said before, a party to celebrate the expected birth of a new baby. It’s also a way in which friends and family can help new parents with whatever resources and gifts they may need because after all, having a baby can be expensive.


So, where did baby showers come from?

Baby showers as we know them are a relatively recent invention. The birth of babies has been celebrated for thousands of years. Still, the celebrations that took place throughout history are very, very different from the kind that we are so familiar with today.

The Ancient Greek and Egyptians held ceremonies to celebrate new babies and their mothers, during these ceremonies and rituals, gifts and good wishes were offered to the gods. During the Middle Ages, however, the ritual began to change, and new babies were celebrated in their baptism, which was an excellent opportunity to give gifts to new parents.

During the Renaissance years, mothers were given gifts and wishes of goodwill upon the birth of their baby. It was only during the Victorian years when the baby shower that we know today began to take shape. Back in those years, childbirth and pregnancy were not discussed publicly, so these celebrations took place after the birth of the baby.

The baby showers that we recognize today truly began to form after the world wars. It was an opportunity for people to offer support and resources for expecting mothers after the economic hardship of both world wars.


Are they outdated?

Given the fact that these traditions date so far back into our history, many people think it is absurd that we should get rid of these baby shower rituals. On the other hand, others argue that the motives for having these ceremonies and gatherings were different when they were first invented. Back then, the reasons were mostly to offer genuine economic support, but nowadays for the majority of families in the western world, that kind of support isn’t essential. Sure, raising a child can be expensive, but that doesn’t mean we have to gather around all of our friends and family to bring over 100 different pairs of baby shoes!

Of course, becoming a parent is a significant milestone in people’s lives, and it is undoubtedly worth huge celebrations, but that doesn’t quite call for forcing each other to spend hours oohing and aahing over the same stuff each time, does it? It’s a ritual that can be spectacularly boring for people who didn’t have kids. In all honesty, there may be better ways for us to celebrate each other's pregnancies, one that is a lot more fun for everybody involved.


How you can make baby showers more ‘modern.’


  1. Get the timing right

There are several ways in which you can make your baby shower more modern. The first if which is to get the timing right. Instead of hosting as soon as you announce you are expecting, you may wish to wait until the baby is born and organise a ‘welcome baby’ party. Of course, it is your decision whatever you decide to do, but this kind of celebration could be combined with a christening,



  1. Check over your guest list

To make sure that the experience is enjoyable for plenty of people, you should keep an eye on who you invite. The best choice is to go for immediate family and tight-knit friends. To make sure that everyone there can have a good time, it’s best only to invite those who are genuinely close to you, so everyone can enjoy it rather than feel obliged to attend.

On top of that, having one joint shower is becoming more and more common. If you know other people who are celebrating a pregnancy, there is no reason why you couldn’t have one celebration together, but if you don’t want guests to feel obliged to bring gifts to everyone, then just make that clear to them.


  1. Know when it opens the presents

People love to see small stuffed animals and tiny clothes, but the long opening of the all can get rather tedious, and guests who didn’t quite bring as large gifts may begin to feel embarrassed. You and your hosts should decide what feels best, but things do often work out best if the contributions are opened later. On top of that, even if your guest insists that one isn’t needed, you should send a thank-you note along, you have up to the baby’s two month birthday to address one without being late, according to baby shower etiquette.


  1. Get crafty with something different altogether.

Another popular option is the mani-pedi style party. All you have to do is block out a few hours at your favorite salon and get some besties to go with you. It’s a fun afternoon that you know everyone can enjoy, and a great way to celebrate an impending pregnancy.


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Will we see the rise of small weddings in 2020?

As the world slowly begins to emerge from the other side of the largest global pandemic in over a century, it bears to ask the question as to what kind of effect this will have on how we gather and celebrate with our loved ones again.

For example, when will we see large scale weddings and events that we had always taken for granted? Will we see the bride and groom being asked to kiss? What will wedding receptions & dinners look like?

Today, we are going to talk about whether we will see the increase of small weddings in 2020. While these micro-celebrations have been slowly gaining popularity over the last number of years, the experts would say that we are likely to see plenty more of them in the coming years as people become more concerned about keeping a social distance. Here are some of the most prominent things reasons why small weddings are on the rise and how couples can benefit from them.


They are more intimate

Having a wedding where each guest is more familiar with each other is inevitably going to lead to a more intimate and sentimental experience for everyone involved. For example, if you have a 150 person wedding, each guest may say ‘hi’ to each other, and leave it at that. But at a 30 guest wedding, it opens up the possibility to have a genuine experience and form a connection with every guest who is there. This makes for a great experience not only for the couple themselves but also for every guest who attends the wedding.

Additionally, when you have a smaller wedding, it allows you to personalize the reception more. For example, writing a personalized thank-you note for each guest on their seat at the reception would be impractical for a 100+ guest wedding, yet it is a realistic option for a reception of 50. When it comes to speeches too, the same thing applies. For example, you may include a particular anecdote if you know that your dad’s boss won’t be attending, which is always fun!


Those who aren’t in the guest list can still be included

If you have the intention to shrink to a small wedding, there are still an abundance of ways that you can include guests who perhaps received a ‘save the date’ invitation already. Just because they can’t be physically present doesn’t mean they won’t get to enjoy the day.

For example, you may have seen recently about couples who had initially planned big weddings with hundreds of guests, turning their special day into a micro wedding, yet still, live stream the ceremony for those who cannot attend. The same thing could be done for the wedding reception to allow guests to speak and dance with other guests who are tuning in from home.

Another low-cost idea which is becoming increasingly popular is to ship little gift packages to guests who can’t make it in person. That may be a small bottle of champagne, perhaps some cake, a Spotify playlist and a link to a live stream of the reception. Anything that encourages virtual guests to celebrate with the couple on the night.


You will cut costs

Almost every couple knows that the longer the guest list, the larger the budget. With the current economic state, having a vast guest list & budget just isn’t practical for many couples nowadays. It’s a no-brainer really that having fewer guests on your list will offer you a better ‘bang for your buck’. Even if you don’t have the intention to lower your budget, a smaller guest list may open doors to include some decorations or features that you wanted, but didn’t have the budget for.

Furthermore, with smaller guest lists, the opportunity to have a classic three-day wedding may make a return. When you only have less than 50 people, allowing them to stay for longer may make for a more memorable and enjoyable weekend. This is undoubtedly something that will appeal to many couples and their families.

Like we mentioned previously with allowing guests to enjoy the ceremony from home, if you have already paid your deposits and don’t want to miss out, there are ways you can make up for it. For example, any extra flower pieces that won’t be used at the venue can make up a part of the celebration package that we referenced above.


It may be the safest option for the future

Couples all around the world who had planned for their special day are now beginning to accept the fact that their wedding will have to be compromised by some form of restrictions on gatherings. That may actually be for the best, here’s why:

Even if there are no restrictions on attendees later in the fall, or into 2021, it may bet the safest option when taking into consideration the leave of mind and security of guests. Of course, no couple wants to put any form of risk onto their family members, in particular those who are deemed ‘high-risk’ from this pandemic. So rather than trying to enjoy a 200+ celebration, it may be more enjoyable to have a small, intimate wedding with friends and family, without having to worry about your safety or the safety of your guests.



In conclusion, then, there is no doubt that we will see the rise of small weddings in 2020, and perhaps even further into 2021, and for good reason too.

If you have planned a large wedding before the outbreak, there is no need to feel disappointed, looking on the bright side, this may be the perfect chance for you to experience a close, intimate gathering with those who you genuinely care about, and make sure that all guests feels safe in the process.


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